“Your legs are like blueberry cheesecake.”
“Do you know what? You are beautiful.”
“I could live anywhere as long I was with you.”
These kinds of heart-stopping remarks from my love normally leave me breathless and flushed even as his wife. Usually my eyes dart to the floor and remain glued there until he is finished. Sometimes I respond with a shy “thank you,” without even glancing at him. Other times I just continue on with the task at hand, as if that is more important!
His endless strings of thoughtful phrases demonstrate that he does not just have a way with words, but he knows the way to my heart. Rather than carelessly tossing out an occasional, “I love you,” or “You look nice,” he thinks through every statement before it hits my ears. As he speaks to me he will try his best to look deep into my bashful eyes, touch my leg softly, hold my hand, or whisper into my ear.
His compliments are genuine. His motives pure. He wants me to never doubt that I am adored. Treasured. Loved. Radiant. Beautiful.
Compliments are sweet to our taste, but they are often difficult to swallow.
The simple act of receiving compliments from our husbands actually takes practice.
Instead of trying to ramble off a poetical piece from Song of Songs, staring blankly at our toes as our cheeks turn shades of red, or putting our hands back into the dishes, we can try a more effective approach.
A compliment is best received and reciprocated when we press the pause button on our lives.
Even if you don’t believe it, let the compliment come into your heart and reside there.
Stop. Look. Move.
This is not a fire drill, but a way to acknowledge the truth that your husband is pouring out his heart towards you because he loves you!
Stop. Wipe your hands off. Pull over the car. Take a seat while the shoppers pass all around you. (Don’t care about the stares- people need to see true love more!)
Look. Turn and stare deeply into the eyes. (Bat those lashes ladies!)
Move. Hold his hand. Wrap your arms around him. Put your head on his shoulder. (Snuggle up close!)
Relish in the moment for a few seconds. Perhaps a few seconds will lead to a couple minutes, and a couple minutes will lead to something else! (But only when you are married!)
I know it sounds silly- stop, look, move. But all that takes a few seconds and will work wonders for your relationship.
Compliments are not meant to be tossed off and treated as common goods.
Compliments should be received with sincerity. They are a rare gem, even if you hear them every day.
Stop and receive it and you will start to believe it! You are adored. Treasured. Loved. Radiant. Beautiful.
Practicing to receive compliments from our man shows him more love and respect than you realize!
And your heart will be changed in the process.
Before you go and pick up more items for the big day, pick up on his compliments and respond to them!
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